It’s been a challenge to find something to write on since this part of our adoption journey is so slow. It’s mostly paperwork and e-mails and phone calls. And from what I can tell, that’s what it’s going to be for the foreseeable future.
However, we’ve gotten some more concrete information now that we’ve decided for sure to pursue an adoption from India. For instance, we know that for an adoption of one child we will be looking at a total cost of anywhere from $23,000 to $29,000 dollars.
We knew adopting overseas would be pricey. And there are definitely grants available to apply for. And I’m sure we will even have family and friends who might want to help out if they can. But still- wow. We will be paying the amount of a brand new car for a little human who is going to keep costing us money- with no warranty, either! We’ve gotta be out of our minds. Ha! I’m kidding. Sort of.
In all seriousness, this large number is a little scary to us. We obviously believe you can’t put a price on a child. That money should be of no object to do something necessary for the well-being of our children. And that our God, who has led us down this path, won’t leave us hanging out to dry when it comes time to fill in the blank space on the check. But if faith were easy, it wouldn’t be faith. And this definitely ain’t easy.
Shane experienced similar circumstances when he committed to going to college at OBU. He felt God leading him there, but didn’t have the financial ability to get him through more than his freshman year without taking out a loan, and that was something he was passionate about not doing. He worked and applied for scholarships, and always at the last possible moment he would have enough for the next semester. It was God providing, but never for the next 3 years- always a little at a time. This was a serious faith-building season in Shane’s life.
This adoption is going to change the world of one little Indian girl and our family- and in that process, we want our faith to be strengthened. But, you can’t have a stronger faith without testing. Continue to pray for us as we prepare for action and seek God’s direction in this adoption. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Faith is being sure of what we hope for, and certain of what we do not see.”And let me tell you, we certainly do not see $29,000 in our bank account. Surprisingly enough, youth pastors don’t get paid six figures a year (sometimes a paycheck consists of the leftover food from a youth hangout night. Just kidding! Sort of.) We believe in our Provider- but, like Paul, we need help overcoming our unbelief.
Side note: Shane and I are going to have a donation collection site available later on in our adoption process. After some discussion, and a little internal struggle, we have decided that if we have loved ones who want to contribute to this effort, we would be happy to let them. However, we are not expecting our adoption to be fully funded by our friends and family. We believe God will provide- some of that will come from you all and the rest from elsewhere. We don’t want anyone feeling pressure to give money- this should come only from a desire and ability to help. We know we are loved and supported in this endeavor, and monetary donations have nothing to do with that.
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