We are pretty far removed from the nitty-gritty of adoption these days. Ruth and I have almost been home for 19 weeks now. Even some of the really hard, negative memories from our time in the process are fading. Unfortunately, this isn’t happening to our friends, the Wilks family, who have been in the visa process for over 4 months now. Why did God give us a smooth process and not our friends? Why are they having to go through an indescribably difficult time to bring their kids home? Why isn’t God doing what I know he can to end their suffering?
These are really difficult questions. Like, hard to stomach, keep me up at night and make me angry questions. The Wilks are doing a GOOD thing. They are giving orphans a forever HOME. A loving family to grow up in. A life that is going to be much better than the alternative of growing up in an orphanage in a developing country with developing ideals of society. So why, God? Why cause this family such grief? Why are you not preventing the confusion and, dare I say it, trauma they are experiencing now, in what is supposed to be their better life? Why are you separating a family like this? Why?
Sometimes, we won’t get answers right away. And sometimes, we won’t get answers at all this side of heaven. And that doesn’t feel right. It doesn’t feel fair. And it definitely doesn’t seem good.
All we can do is hold to the truth that God is good, and he cares for his children perfectly.
Romans 8:28 “And we know that God causes ALL THINGS to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.”
Psalm 100:5 “For the Lord is GOOD; His loving-kindness is everlasting and his faithfulness to all generations.”
We all go through circumstances in life that aren’t enjoyable. We all have pain, we all feel loss. But we need to be anchored in the promise that God is for us and that he is always on his throne, so we have nothing to fear.
Maryl and Bryce, we are praying for you and the kids. We are lifting you up to our loving Father during this incredibly difficult time. He will not leave you there, He will not leave the kids there. Hold fast to your faith. He will provide.