Cynthia Update

Although there isn’t much to update, we wanted to touch base and let everyone know where we are. Because, even though things move slowly, we are always one day closer to going to get our youngest daughter!

We are in the midst of another “hurry up and wait” situation. So far, Cynthia’s process has gotten our dossier into Hong Kong. Right now, it’s being reviewed by the adoption agency there, combing through it so very carefully as to limit the questions or possible holds up when our dossier makes it to Hong Kong Central Authority. I will say that our agent assigned to our case in Hong Kong is very thorough and very sweet, she has interpreted the writing she could on the metal container my mom got Cynthia from a thrift shop. Turns out, it is a tea leaf container! And the outside writing that was in Cantonese said something like “the fragrance of the tea,” and the other characters were in classic Chinese and ancient Chinese, she could not read those. Very kind of her to indulge us!

So, as we collect a few more financial documents and corrections to our home study, that will hopefully be all anyone on Hong Kong’s side needs to officially match us and send us to the final stages of the adoption process. Essentially, after sending everything additional requested by Hong Kong, no news will be good news. The fewer the questions, the more likely it is that everything is satisfactory and can move along smoothly. So- although it’s frustrating, not hearing anything from hear on out would be a very good sign!

We are very excited for Cynthia to hear about her family who loves her and is ready to bring her home. As we’ve mentioned before, Hong Kong is a little more protective in that they don’t allow the child to know about the prospective adoptive family until HKCA officially matches. Which makes sense, protecting potential adoptive children’s hearts in this stage should be everyone’s number one priority. And as much as we would like for Cynthia to see our faces and hear that we’re coming for her, we wouldn’t want her to be told that prematurely if something were to go very wrong and prevent that from becoming a reality. She isn’t a baby or a toddler- she is a four year old girl with much of the same intelligence and emotional capacity as Allen and Ruth- and when Allen and Ruth are told something exciting they DO NOT forget! And if something causes that exciting thing not to happen, they are truly upset. So as much as we want her to know, we want it to be at the right time.

We did get a family photo album made for Cynthia very recently. It has pictures of everyone in our immediate families in it. Well, except for Natalie, my brand new niece, as she decided to make her appearance the day after I had the photo album ordered! So we will have to include a picture of baby Natalie for Cynthia to see inside the album. We might also be able to send Cynthia a few small gifts once matched, and even a possible video chat when it comes closer to time. But we were told not to get our hopes up about the video chat just in case. However, that will still be months away, as we are likely not going before the fall.

We haven’t gotten any updates on how Cynthia is doing recently. It’s a bit frustrating that we were given so many updates on Ruth compared to Cynthia- but there’s nothing to be done except continue praying for her, working hard and quickly on her process, and preparing our own home and hearts for the addition of our sweet (and dare I say it, ornery!) youngest girl. I only guess ornery from her pictures- but she will have to have some orneriness in her to run around with her siblings!

We have also been gifted financial support through our local church here in Elgin. Grace Community Church has been an answer to prayer in more ways than one. And the support they’ve pledged us is immensely helpful. Also, there were some anonymous gifts online through our Adoption Bridge account that helped with our dossier fee. If you are one of those anonymous givers, THANK YOU! When Shane and I decided to say yes to Cynthia in September of 2018, we had no idea that he would lose his job just a couple short months later. And that we would suddenly be forced to move across the state, Shane take a much lower paying job, buy a house (when we hadn’t really recouped what was saved for a down payment, as Ruth’s adoption ended up costing a lot more than anticipated). But God, what we see as enormous obstacles, he sees as an opportunity for his glory to shine and his goodness proclaimed. And that’s exactly what he’s been doing, every step of our lives. Praise be to him!

So thank you for praying, and for giving if you have. Keep lifting us up- this road is not easy, nor is it almost over. If you want to give, please feel free to follow the link to our Adoption Bridge account- we have quite a bit left to go as far as financing Cynthia’s way home. Our family’s account can be found here.

Or, if you are old-fashioned and prefer mailing a check, please send to the address here. Just be sure to put “Haff family” in the memo line!

And also keep the Wilks in your prayers- they are still awaiting direction so they can finally go get their three kids who have been waiting almost 15 months to come home! The end is so near, but Satan is working overtime. But he will not prevail.

And another praise- good friends of ours are going to pick up their sweet Millie Mei from China in just a few short weeks! Pray for safe travels, good rest at every opportunity, and wonderful bonding experiences for Millie Mei and Matt and Katie. So excited for this adventure of theirs!